Body confidence is key to surviving in a society like ours, and no-one, and I mean no-one should be made to feel so shit about themselves that they have no confidence at all.
Putting yourself in the right mindset is key. “I look good today” will give you a whole better outlook than “meh, I guess I look okay today” and will leave you feeling so much better about yourself. Once that’s over with, the rest of the day seems to come easier because you can hold your head up high knowing you look good and that as long as you think you do, no-one else can bring you down. Who cares what anyone else thinks? If you think you rock whatever you’re wearing then that’s fine! No-one else’s opinion matters. All that matters is that you’re 100% content with yourself and your appearance.
This is something I’ve been getting my head round recently, and I feel much more confident within myself and when going out because of it, and it all comes down to simply being in the right mindset! I genuinely thought it would be impossible for me to go out feeling comfortable with how I look, but the more often I repeat things like “you know what, I look good today’ and so on, the better I feel about myself. Some people will try and say that it’s ‘big-headed’ or ‘cocky’ but it’s really not. It’s simply self love, and self love is something that I (and many others) have neglected for a very very long time.
There’s more to life than the way we look. It’s not all about being a silly size 0, or having perfectly straight, ridiculously white teeth, or fitting in designer clothes, it’s about being confident within your own skin. Who cares what anyone else thinks? Life’s too short to worry about everyone else’s opinion of your appearance, it’s what’s on the inside that matters.
People need to look past the exterior and start realising that the interior of a person is where the true beauty is. Obviously humans are attracted to the aesthetics of other humans, but it’s at such a degree now where no-one feels comfortable with themselves aside from maybe a small minority , and that’s such a reflection on society.
It comes as no shock that the society we live in is a rather cruel one, but if you don’t conform to the ideology of the ‘perfect’ human in regards to your appearance, it seems to serve crueler to you. How is this right? How can this be justified? People shouldn’t be discriminated against because of their weight, or hair and eye colour, or how long their arms are or how short their fingers are. People shouldn’t be discriminated against full stop. We shouldn’t have to care about having wafer thin, mile long legs, or a tiny waist and giant hips, or a big bum, flat stomach and big boobs – and for men, giant bulging arms and six packs. So what if you’re covered in tattoos and piercings? So what if you have bright coloured hair and stretched ears? People that only care about you for your appearance clearly don’t have any nice personal qualities, so they really aren’t worth the worry. So what if they think that your nose is too big or your face is too freckly? They’re clearly too obnoxious to look towards your personality.
NEVER CHANGE WHO YOU ARE BECAUSE SOMEBODY ELSE HAS A PROBLEM WITH IT
I’ve realised that comparing myself to others is not a healthy attitude to have, and it was making me unhealthy and obsessed about my appearance. I’m going to accept myself for who I am, I’m going to love myself and my appearance, from the gap in my teeth right down to the size of my feet, and I’m not going to give a damn about what anyone thinks of me.
ACCEPT THE BEAUTY OF OTHERS WITHOUT COMPROMISING YOUR OWN. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL IN YOUR OWN RIGHT AND DON'T YOU DARE LET ANYONE TAKE THAT AWAY FROM YOU!
(originally posted 4th June 2015 www.luna-llena.co.uk)
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